|#40 - Try Buoyancy for a Change!
As you know, coaches have coaches too (smile). They help us stay committed to our own growth so we can be better facilitators of our own clients. In my last coaching session, the word ‘buoyancy’ surfaced and I was intrigued. This wonderful word actually made me smile, as opposed to, "resilience through adversity" which frankly makes me brace myself for the next onslaught of whatever comes my way. What is it about being buoyant that melted away the knots between my shoulder blades?
Don’t get me wrong: resilience is a good and necessary skill. It’s the ability to manage our emotional states, and bounce back when we have set backs in our projects and our lives. It’s about finding the resources within to weather obstacles, learn, and come out stronger; a very good thing indeed.
And as we attempt to live through one IT transformation after another, process modernizations galore, organizational renewal and matrix management, and other new and improved methods that are launched our way, we humans have little time to digest the psychological impact that accompanies this marathon of change. In the last century, the pace of change was such that we could take a breather in between each: a chance to mourn the loss of the ‘old’ way, absorb, learn and grow with the new. Today, how can we find that breathing space when there is no beginning, middle, or end to the story, and chapters are constantly being rewritten?
A Paradigm Shift
Think of buoyancy as an extension of resilience. Like a buoy out at sea, it’s anchored and floats above the water. It elegantly moves with the waves, it occasionally finds itself submerged if the waters are too turbulent, but always gets back to the surface. Rather than fight against the tide, it goes with it. What if in this century, we humans develop buoyancy? An inner resilience that lets the waves roll in an out, taking turbulence in stride, resting when there is a lull, and expecting to be rocked and rolled as the normal state of affairs. The less I struggle, the better I float.
So how can you become that resilient buoy, rolling with the waves, with your anchor and your ability to surface intact?
Buoyancy incorporates resilience. It’s also remembering that your life is what you are living right now. Enjoy the ride!
- Take your work seriously; not yourself.
- Stay focused on the end result you want to achieve.
- Anchor your actions to the values you hold dear.
- Go with the flow. Trying to plan every step and figure out every detail before you move is a sure way to sink in high turbulence.
- Know that the good weather always returns. When winds are strong and storms are brewing, take pleasure in the small wins, the human connections, and the every day discoveries.