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#21 - What now! Not another one?

They say things come in threes. Sometimes it seems that just as you finished digesting one change, another one is following right on its tail, and you didn’t see that next one coming. Now a third one is blowing your way and here we go again. This is no longer a roller coaster ride, like we talked about in the last tip. This is definitely a runaway train.

I mean didn’t I just loose one staff member, now another is leaving? Didn’t I just deal with this delay in the technology implementation, now another project is running behind? And, to top it all off, the visit to the vet was on par with the cost of new winter tires! Really? Somebody please stop this train!

The good news is that this time we’ve learned to get to the other end faster. By now you’re familiar with going through amazing peaks and pesky valleys. You’re taking deep centering breaths as you get on to the business of managing your personal and professional transitions. You’re remembering the experience of denial, and recognize it for what it is. You’re gritting your teeth as you recall the anger and feeling of powerlessness that left you bristling last time. This time, the feeling will be gone in a flash. And next, you’re remembering that here is a way out; that other adventures are beckoning, as you prepare to welcome new beginnings.


Whether in denial or anger, or dealing with endings or new beginnings, and sometime all at the same time, by some miracle, I’m still standing, and so are you. They have names for 21st century human beings: they call us Resilient.

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” 
 - Nelson Mandela
What is Resilience made of? In my personal and professional experience, RESILENCE is:

One part UNWAVERING FOCUS: Pushing away distractions and keeping your eye on your desired result.

One part FLEXIBILITY: It’s less about fighting the change, trying to get back to a past that no longer exists, but more about accepting it and the new road that comes with it.

One part PROPENSITY for ACTION: Bottom line: Take action by tapping into what you already have to create a solution.

One part LEARNING IN ACTION: Always be willing to learn a new way of being and doing as you move forward.

I happen to think that human beings are just simply too stubborn to give up, even in the face of intense adversity. Resilience just pushes us to persist, no matter what. It keeps us searching for another way, because, at the end of the day, there’s always another way, even if it’s not obvious at first.

Sometimes the right response is to hang on and dig in. Sometimes the only response is to let go and start over. The choice is yours. So tap into your Resilience and move into your world of constant change, knowing that you are growing stronger and wiser in the process of living, one step at a time.

~ Dominique