|#44 - Growing Pains
There have been times in my career when I’ve reached the boiling point. Times when the brim was full to overflow with pent up frustration. In those moments it’s never clear exactly what’s happening, but two things are certain: a growing pain can no longer be ignored, and soul searching is in order.
There was such a poignant moment for a colleague of mine recently, and as she told the story, I could definitely relate. I could also sense her embarrassment at having this happen in front of colleagues and her discomfort about showing up at work the next day.
This human event inspired me to write words in a different way than in my previous tips, one that went with the flow of the moment. I shared them with my colleague, and with her blessing, I share them with you now.
Embrace your growing pains. They pop up to show you that what was the right fit five years ago, no longer applies. You’ve grown and are continually growing because you’re human. That’s what you’re supposed to do, at every stage of your life! The inevitable busting out at the seams is a precious reminder that growing never stops. A good thing!
There are times when nothing is going your way.
Your clients aren’t happy.
Your best colleague is leaving.
Your work seems repetitive, meaningless.
You are teary-eyed, grouchy, distracted, irritated.
And then you have a meltdown. For a few minutes, a few hours, a few days, you’re all anger and sadness, fire and water.
The explosion is both an embarrassment and a release. Could it be a sign that you no longer fit in the same shell? Could it be time to grow in another direction?
What if instead of running for cover, you ran towards the rubble left by the meltdown. Maybe you would find the pieces of your new self, liberated from the cement that held them in that odd shape that no longer serves you.
As you pick up the pieces, you may find yourself taking small steps, forward.
What if I took a course, attended a retreat, went on holidays? What if I started a new project, responded to a request I had put aside until I was ready? What if I moved West? What if??
Everything is possible again.