#15 - Gremlins, you say!
In coach speak, gremlins are the saboteurs inside all of us. The voice that paralyzes us by overanalyzing or speaking of all our fears, real or imagined.
You tried this before and look where it got you?
What if no one likes/buys/recognizes/applauds?
You’re not good enough to move to the executive level!
There are many explanations for why many of us (and dare I say most of us) so quickly go to that place of negative self-talk. Suffice it to say that it’s a common, very human problem that creates very real barriers to success. So what to do about these pesky gremlins?
When gremlins speak too loudly, and turn into fire breathing dragons, we may need help from a good friend or a professional to help us out of our self-flagellation and into a more resourceful state. Don’t be afraid to seek the support you need!
When gremlins are still manageable but nip at your heels, there are ways to quiet them. One approach is to entertain bigger questions than the current ones that are creating your impasse.
One client of mine is getting ready to run a marathon. When she’s feeling too tired or too busy to run, she visualizes crossing the finish line, remembering what lead her to take on this challenge in the first place. It’s also an empowering reminder of who she aspires to be. After a run, the fatigue goes away, and her success reinforces her commitment to her goal!
- Can’t get going in the direction of your dream? Instead of wondering WHY can’t you get there, remind yourself of WHAT prompted you to move in this direction or, better yet, ask yourself WHO you want to become as you chose this new path.
- Can’t stay committed to your endeavor? Instead of asking WHY can’t you stop procrastinating? Ask yourself WHAT about this endeavor is important to you?
At other times, moving forward requires that you turn off your thinking cap and simply act! Your intellect is not always your friend! What is the next required step? Usually it’s the one right in front of us, the one we are afraid to take. Maybe if I take one step, then another, then another, I start to realize that in the present moment, I am fine. In that resourceful state, I can take a small step into the world; a world of my own making.
In that time and space when the gremlins are threatening to take over, taking a step, any step, in line with your goals, and reminding yourself of your reasons for moving forward, both go a long way in the loosening the gremlins grip, and actually dissipating their presence.