#3 - Intuition
Often I hear a coaching client regretfully say: “I didn’t trust my intuition and look at the mess I have created!” Sounds familiar? I have personally done this time and time again!
My sense with intuition is that it’s the sum total of everything you are hearing, feeling, and capturing as you consistently scan your environment. And it’s a lot. Communications specialists suggest that you and I are only able to keep a small fraction of what we perceive in our conscious mind. What happens to the rest? It stays suspended until it starts to form thoughts, like rain drops that pop into our heads. These thoughts turn into words, words become a voice saying: “Don’t do it, not for you.” Or “Go for it.” Most importantly, your intuitive voice is perfectly neutral, devoid of any opinion.
On the other hand, we often listen to that other voice, the one voice that thrives on doubt and fear: “You will fail!” it declares. “Don’t even think of doing this at your age!", or the classic “What will others think!”. The result is that we wait when we should move. Say ‘Yes’ to things you should obviously say ‘No' to, or vice versa. The result is much frustration and chaos.
STEP 1: JUST SAY NO. When the doubting Thomases make camp in my head, I consciously put the brakes on and just stop listening. This conscious pause is your opportunity to remind your head that you are in control.
STEP 2: TAKE A DEEP BREATH. I have found this extremely helpful in order to say what I really want to say with calm conviction.
STEP 3: LISTEN TO YOURSELF. Many times, the first action is the best one. Yes, it’s true. Your intuitive next steps may disrupt someone else’s apple cart. AND it will put you on the road to self-fulfillment. Imagine that!
STEP 4: TRUST YOURSELF. Recall a situation when you went with your intuition. What was the result? Recall a situation when you went against your intuition. What was the result? Knowing the difference is a crucial step in learning to trust it.
Next time your intuition speaks, give her the microphone. Try with small things first and be consistent. Your inner voice will become stronger and your life will expand, one clear decision at a time.