#20 - There comes a time...
There always comes a time when the agitation stops. When the never-ending questions stop swirling around your head. All the paths now lead in the same direction, the direction you are meant to take. No more ‘what if this' and ‘what if that' scenarios. Your step is more assured, your voice more assertive. That time is called commitment.
How did you get there?
You took one step forward, maybe a few steps sideways. Most importantly, you kept going; making that first call, dusting off your resumé, starting a new project or drafting its first page. You took chances and contacted a publisher or headhunter. You made a definite decision and took a step in line with that decision, and that’s commitment: the one you made to yourself.
The voice of fear or doubt may be whispering in your ear occasionally, but it’s no longer playing at full volume. Even when those doubtful whispers come forward, asking that annoying question: “Are you sure?” Well, you may or may not be, but still you firmly brush the doubts away with plenty of gusto, because there’s no going back!
What I notice when I make a commitment, first privately and then publicly, is that I see my familiar world with new eyes. Having stepped outside of the system that either held me prisoner or was comforting for a long time, I notice how small the space really was. I notice the patterns of behaviours and find them odd or funny and can’t quite remember what the attraction was to this person, this work, this place: The past stops having a hold on me, and the new me is ready for adventure.
To anchor an era of change, I found it useful to make new habits. If you're use to walking every evening after dinner, try walking in the morning. Try a new food or a chose a new favorite song. Let that new habit be the symbol for your new life. Regret for the past sometimes tinges the present with nostalgia. You may shed a tear, that’s fine. At the same time, the possibilities shining before you are a powerful antidote to sadness.
Enjoy the brand new day. Tomorrow may bring more changes, but in this moment, you have arrived.