Want to know one of the fastest killers of a relationship?
Tip: Stay Curious
We stop trying. We make assumptions about who our partner is, what they want and what they like.
Truth is, we are constantly growing and changing but we don't often keep our partners up to speed on those changes. You see, early in dating, we ask lots of questions, but then at some point, we stop asking. We stop being curious.
And then we get frustrated for not knowing important things about us.
Here's an example: 15 years ago, your favorite flavor of ice cream was chocolate, and over time it's changed to peanut butter and chocolate. Your partner comes and surprises you with a pint of chocolate chip, and you get pissed saying, "How do you not even know my favorite flavor of ice cream? Do you even love me?"
Okay, so maybe that was a slightly dramatic example, but it's still tugging at some heartstrings, am I right?
So, the antidote to disconnection and frustration: stay curious about who your partner is in the here and now. You'll learn so much and just watching the connection deepen.