Tip: Put Down the Cup
Imagine you're holding up a cup, or a water bottle. Actually, let's make this experiential...so go ahead, pick up something nearby you that you can hold.
Okay, so if I were to ask you how much it weighed, you'd probably say, "Oh, somewhere between 1-2 pounds."
If I asked you if it was heavy, you'd likely reply, "No, it's not heavy."
What if you had to hold this cup for 1 minute, would it be heavy? What if you held it for 5 minutes - would it be heavy then? What if I said that you had to hold the cup for the next 10, 20 or 60 minutes?
After a longer period of time, you'd likely decide at some point, yes it was getting heavy.
Does the actual weight of it change? The answer is NO.
So, moral of the story is: The longer you hold onto something, the heavier it is to carry. But we go through our life holding on to our shit (irritations, past or present pain or hurts, insecurities, anger, resentments, expectations, attachments, patterns or habits that don't serve us...the list could go on and on and on...) and then complain about how heavy it all is, and how much stress and anxiety we have.
So what can you do about it? Put. Down. The. Cup.
Putting it down doesn't ignore, deny or resist the cup. It simply changes your relationship to the cup. It no longer has the same power over you. You will then be able to see it for what it is, and decide with awareness, attention and intention (my 3 favorite words, which is also how I define mindfulness) what to do with it.
In what areas can you apply this wisdom??