I hope this message finds you doing well as we start week 10 of sheltering, and managing all that Covid has brought with it.
I know that for many people, there is great suffering and challenge. And for others, the suffering comes in the form of inconveniences, hard emotions and disappointments over lost experiences and opportunities.
This is especially hard on our kids, cause they just don't have the life experience to know it'll all be okay. (We adults sometimes have a hard time remembering that, but at least we know that we've survived all the things we thought we could never get through.)
So to help you cultivate deeper relationships, filled with empathy, compassion and connected communication, I've compiled some tools and reminders you may find helpful when your kids are feeling sad, angry or just in the dumps:
There's 5 more tools that are on this list that you can check out in my extended article on my blog. You can read it here.
- Don’t just tell them it’s going to be okay. Actually listen to how they feel and validate their emotions as being real.
- Don’t rush to the silver lining. We know that we grow from painful experiences. They will learn this too, on their own time and in their own way. Rushing to what they will gain from their pain will dismiss the pain.
- Allow them to feel all that they feel without judgment. Emotions are not logical; they come from different parts of the brain. We want to model to our kids that all emotions – even the hard ones – are normal and natural, because they are part of what it means to be human.
- Honor the losses and sadness, even if you don’t get it. You don’t have to understand or even agree with them for you to honor it. What they feel is real to them.
- Don’t try to fix it. They just need to be seen, heard, and validated. That’s almost enough.
And today is also Day 8 of our online summit, Surviving to Thriving, how to grow through adversity during the pandemic, where we had expert Mark Greene talk about relational parenting. We've already gotten amazing feedback on this interview, so click here to register if you haven't already. Every interview is free and available for 30 days, so even if you register on the last day, June 7, you'll still get access to all the interviews!
In the article, I also suggest downloading my mini audio course on Patient Parenting. It's chock full of goodness on how to bring more mindfulness into your home, and into your relationships. It literally changed my life and the entire culture of my family for the better. Click here to check it out.
And lastly, one of my favorite interviews so far in the summit was when I got to talk to Congressman Tim Ryan; it's so inspiring to see mindful leadership in action! So I made that interview into this week's podcast so we can get it out on more platforms. If you missed his interview in the summit, be sure to check out the podcast episode here.
Big Hugs and Be Well!!