Tip: Self-Care is not Selfish
At this very moment, I'm sitting at the beautiful and serene Miraval Resort in Tuscon, Arizona, finishing up a women's retreat, where I'm teaching the tools on how to deepen self-compassion.
For these women, being here is the ultimate example of self-care; dedicating themselves to honor their needs. It's time out of their day-to-day grind of daily life, choosing to honor their mental and emotional health by slowing down, breathing, practicing mindfulness, meditation, relaxing by the pool, getting spa treatments and connecting with others. This is actually all necessary for growth and I would argue, happiness. They have made this choice to put all of this ahead of their responsibilities at home, whether it's their kids, their job, their partners, or any other responsibilities. It's a dedication to self-care.
It is not selfish to take care of yourself. It is necessary. If you don't take care of you, who will?
And more importantly, if you're not grounded, and rather are stuck feeling stressed and anxious, how can you best show up to take care of others? And what would this role model to the important people in your life?
Like the old cliche when on a plane...in case of emergency, put the oxygen mask on yourself before helping the people around you. If you're not able to breathe, how can you be there for the people you love?
You don't need to wait for an emergency to make sure your basic (and even higher!) needs are met.
So schedule the trip, get the massage, linger over a daytime lunch out; do things that make you feel refreshed, renewed and replenished. Even if it's indulgent! You deserve it!