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Good morning dear reader & welcome to my world for another week. In my last article to you I spoke of Judging & the incredible power this can have, particularly when the subject is of one self. Over the last week away, I have been reflecting again on why this may be, & how these adverse thoughts can be alleviated.

The answer in a word I have come up with this week is Simplicity.  It is a beautiful word, do you concur?  I really do believe that many people are looking for simplicity. They want a life which works.  They want clear direction & purpose.  They want a road-map to help them live for something which is most important. There is a lot of noise & clutter in the lives of many people which creates a loss or lack of stability, & leaves people feeling exhausted.

But the irony is, simplicity rarely feels simple.  In my life I often long for greater simplicity, but it has usually felt elusive & just out of reach. [1]

And everywhere I go, I hear words disguised as a plea for a simpler life. I hear words like exhausted, overwhelmed, over-scheduled, & stressed.  Lives feel cluttered, confused & complex…anything but simple.

Maybe you can resonate with the following words: “Amid the confused restlessness of modern life, our wearied minds dream of simplicity.” [2] It is mind-boggling these words were written in Paris in 1895, before the invention of the car, the airplane, the television, the computer, the internet or social media.

After my conference last week & being reminded of what appeared to be in every session, the world is not going to slow down. Technology is not going away; 24/7 access to everything is here to stay. We live in a day of option overload. And because of the speed of life & business, we have more options coming at us & less time to decide on them.

“The biggest challenge for everyone living today is how to adjust to a continual increase of complexity in every area of life.” [3] And I would say it is not just the increase of complexity, but the increase of speed.

I am convinced, the quality of our one only life has a lot to do with this issue of simplicity. This topic is about far more than organizing your suitcase to travel or cleaning out your garage. So, what are the answers of the road to simplicity?

Get clear about who you are & who you are not. So many voices shape & inform our sense of identity lead one to confusion. We start living the life others want us to live rather than the life of our own values, dreams, priorities, gifts & Personality. 
Lack of clarity around who we are & what is truly important to us will lead to complexity & clutter.
As for myself: most of my life I have been a type A, driven, ambitious, over-achieving person. It is in my DNA. I am a fairly typical first born. However, the script I learned growing up also contributed to my personality & attitudes. This script I learned was… work hard, be responsible: if you do well, you will get accepted & loved!
So, if this is the script you live by, you are always focused on achieving. You are only as good as your latest accomplishment. At least for me, the end result is a compulsively busy & rather complex complicated life. What you see often on the outside is a complete facade.

When I am talking to people I am always listening for the scripts to inform me how they think & live. And while these scripts impact us & shape us, I have learned, we do not have to be held captive by them. 
Perhaps before my article next week we all need to do some reflection on who we are at the core of our being.  And perhaps you need to make the courageous decision to stop living for everybody else & their expectations & start being true to who you actually are. [4]

Thank you for taking the time to be with me once again. I hope my journey may encourage you also. This is Kenn Butler in Paradise, Nelson, with my best wishes for the weekend ahead. I look forward to being with you all again next weekend.
[1] Some people who know me well, may wish to think I mean productivity…
[2] The words of Charles Wagner
[3] Dan Sullivan, the founder of Strategic Coach
[4] Inspired by Lance Witt, the author of the book Replenish, which is dedicated to helping leaders live & lead from a healthy soul. And a few days off & away from my office to think & reflect...

Kenn Butler
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