Good afternoon dear reader & welcome to my world for another week. Over the last five weeks I have been sharing with you on the matter of relationships I come across in my personal journey.
Interestingly, I have wanted to write about personal growth & associated issues for a few weeks now & during this last week the story on Joanne Harrison, a former senior manager at the Ministry of Transport I found fascinating. Despite eight complaints from staff about her "non-compliance" starting in later 2013, it wasn't until an audit check in December 2015 her fraud was identified.
I found this extraordinary, particularly given as a "sophisticated fraudster", she had the ability within her role to dispense with whistle-blowers, some it appears near retirement. Activity & actions taken by Ms Harrison, & the effect on people watching, who will have walked away having concluded what you care about, & what your priorities are, even what you value. This is I suspect my friends happening in many other places, perhaps not with the same consequence as Jo Harrison, however, with other side effects.
Everything we do, or do not do, when you show up, if you show up, what you say, what you do not say, & even how you allocate your budget shapes your specific brand of leadership. All of your actions send messages. While these actions are especially relevant to leaders, they can also be applied to situations where you are trying to change the perspective of the boss.
So, back to my original point & let us look at two different kinds of growth ~ symbiotic growth & parasitic growth. Symbiotic growth is a give-&-take relationship, in which both sides benefit. Conversely, parasitic growth is when one side feeds of another, but gives nothing back. 1 Examples may include you leave a meeting & think: “I did not get anything out of the service offered”. Parasitic growth is characterized by such words as ‘help me, but expect nothing from me in return’.
Symbiotic growth is characterized by such words as, ‘Yes, I have needs, but I am willing to give too, because everyone needs to benefit.’ Perhaps a good analogy could be our bodies, which are made up of systems. These include the nervous, circulatory, muscular, lymphatic, skeletal & immune systems for example. 2 These systems are interdependent & rely on one another. So, when one of them goers down, the rest of the body is typically negatively impacted by it.
In conclusion dear reader, I think sometimes we need to ask ourselves, & feel free to extend this question to others as well, “What could I do which demonstrates I am, in fact, the opposite of closed-minded?” An accompanying question would be, “What could I do or say when I cannot be flexible to help someone understand why we take the position we need to?” Sometimes it is as simple as advising your upcoming actions & alerting them to what you would like to occur.
One could also put more thought into what behaviours involve sacrifices of time, ego, or even previous priorities. More on this statement, another time…
Thank you for taking the time to be with me once again. I hope my journey may encourage you also. This is Kenn Butler in Paradise, Nelson, with my best wishes for the week ahead. I look forward to being with you all again next weekend.