Change the question from "helping" to "being part of"
One thing that we have learned over the years, and much more so during this semester of Rehearsing Change, is that we need to stop thinking about helping others. In many cases, when we use the word "help," a dynamic is implied, or we unintentionally create a relationship in our minds: we have something that others do not and we are giving to others in need. In some cases, we do this out of a love for service to humanity, in others we do it out of guilt or pity. At Pachaysana, we are trying to get away from the common conceptions of service or giving. Instead, we suggest moving toward a relationship of sharing or "being part of..." For example, if you share your food or time with a family member, neighbor or friend, is that helping, or is that being part of their lives?
We ask you to join us in a transformation of discourse: from helping to becoming part of an ever-expanding community.