Special Kids: Newsletter No 34
Resolution #1 - Let Yourself be Needed Less.
If you have been following our Facebook page, you’ll see that we’ve been talking quiet a bit about resolutions for the new year. Now I’m not one to run away with resolutions, I keep my resolutions attainable – mostly because I’m relieved to have made it through another year with my sanity and sense of humour intact. 

I keep it simple and try be kind to myself in the goals that I set. First on the list is to read more books that have nothing to with disability, nothing at all. To remind myself to wear more skirts and to keep my feet healthy. After breaking two major bones, a toe and ripping several tendons in my ankle last year – I will never take happy, healthy feet for granted again.

The big one for me this year, which mostly is more of a life resolution than a 2017 one – is to allow yourself to be needed less.

For our kids’ sake and for the sake of society at large, we need to do a one eighty and stop measuring parenting success by how much we do for our kids and start measuring it by how much we’ve taught them to do for themselves. It’s not our job to always make life easier for our kids; we need to prepare them to deal with the tough stuff. And in order for them to grow and develop, they have to be out of their
comfort zone sometimes.

When you’re teaching your child a new skill, whether it’s tying his shoes, crossing the street, using the stove, or getting out the door each morning, try this method:
 Show your child how to do it.
Do it with him.
Watch her do it.
Let him do it independently. 

Over-helping our children, albeit lovingly intended, can leave them standing helpless at the doorstep of adulthood. 

Happy 2017 people, may you have a great year.

Nina Zylstra
Editor of Special Kids
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