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Military Families--The Strength Behind the Uniform
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Military Family Resource Centre
88 Watts Avenue
Charlottetown, PE  C1A 2C1
(902) 892-8999
www.familyforce.ca


Staff
Donna Earl
Executive Director

donna.earl@forces.gc.ca

Nancy Mollison
Office Administrator

nancy.mollison@forces.gc.ca


Lynn Milligan
Program Coordinator

lynn.milligan@forces.gc.ca

Bernie Mullin-Splude
Program Coordinator

bernadine.mullin-splude@forces.gc.ca

Edward MacAulay
Family Liaison Officer

 

The newest happenings at your MFRC. 

News & Events

YOU ASK – WE ACT
Military Discount Program
The PEI MFRC is responsive to your ideas, requests and concerns.  Recently, the MFRC was asked to  develop a Military Discount Program for PEI.   DAVEsTEA is the first business to join our llist by offering a 10% discount to our military community.  A PEI MFRC Military Discount Program sticker will help you can identify most businesses that will be participating in this program.  Staff and volunteers are currently working on the project, but we could use your help.  If you are a business owner or manager who would like to be part of the program and show your support for our military members, veterans and their families, or if you know of a business who already provides military discounts, we would like to hear from you.  Any business that is a member of our military discount program will receive recognition on the CF One and PEI MFRC websites as well as our Facebook and  monthly newsletter.  If you can help, please call the MFRC at 902-892-8999.


AFGHANISTAN MEMORIAL VIGIL
From 2001 to 2014 more than 30,000 soldiers, sailors, airmen, police officers, recording artists, and civilian workers served in the Afghanistan theatre. During that time, 158 CAF personnel, three civilians, and over 40 US Armed Forces personnel under Canadian Command died while serving in the Canadian Mission.
As the Canadian Armed Forces left Kandahar province, the cenotaph from Kandahar Airfield was returned to Canada. This memorial has almost completed its journey into the United States and across Canada. After leaving Charlottetown, it will travel to NS and NL before returning to Ottawa where it will be displayed in a permanent location.
 The Afghanistan Memorial Vigil will be open to the public (Oct 9 1200-2000hrs, 10 Oct 1000-2000hrs, 11 Oct 1000-1600hrs).  However, veterans of the Afghanistan theatre wishing to do so, are invited to gather at Memorial Hall at the Confederation Centre of the Arts 1930hrs 09 October to pay tribute to those who fell while serving in the Canadian mission. Spouses are very welcomed to attend.
All those wishing to participate, will gather at the Memorial Hall Boardroom (halfway between Memorial Hall and the Richmond St entrance) at 1930hrs. After a brief introduction, veterans and their spouses will view the Memorial at their leisure. Afterwards, all are invited to the PEI Regiment Sergeants’ Mess for refreshments and finger foods (compliments of the PEI MFRC) beginning at 2045hrs.


DINNER & COMEDY NIGHT (Viewer Discretion is Advised)
The PEI Military Family Resource Centre (MFRC), in partnership with the Royal Canadian Legion, Branch #1, will be hosting the Forces Comedy Tour on October 24th at the Royal Canadian Legion, Branch #1 at 99 Pownal Street, Charlottetown.  The evening will feature dinner, which begins at 6 pm, followed by 90 minutes of comedy with some of Canada’s top comedians headlining the show.  The intention is to raise funds and awareness for PTSD Awareness through organizations such as the PEI MFRC and the Royal Canadian Legion.
The Forces Comedy Tour (FCT) was established in 2011 by a currently serving regular force member, Corporal Shawn Lawrence. The sole initiative behind this show was to create something that could give back to, and have the ability to connect our Military/Police/Fire/EMS members and their families, home and abroad.
It was through a passion for comedy that the show was born.  With the assistance of top professional comedians, FCT was able to bring this show to life, making a serious impact with the military community and those around them.
Hosted by Shawn Lawrence, who has been seen on Sirius XM, Absolute Comedy and CAF Shows, the Forces Comedy Tour provides those in attendance with an evening they will not soon forget.  Action packed with over 90 minutes of laughter with Canada’s leading top comedians. The headliner for the event is Ryan Dennee, who has been seen on Sirius XM, Yuk Yuk’s CA, Absolute Comedy and Comedy on the Rocks.  Joining Ryan is PEI’s own Eric Payne as the featured special guest.  Eric has been seen on CBC’s Open Mike Contest and Yuk Yuks CA.
Tickets are $45 and available in Charlottetown at the PEI MFRC, 88 Watts Avenue and the Royal Canadian Legion, Branch #1, 99 Pownal Street.  The deadline to purchase tickets is Friday, October 17th.  For more information, call the MFRC at 902-892-8999.
 
VOLUNTEERS
Hello PEI MFRC volunteers! Our volunteer meeting will be held on Wednesday October 1st at 6:30pm. Location: PEI MFRC, 88 Watts Ave. Please send me a quick email if you are able to attend…Lynn.Milligan@forces.gc.ca.
 
SISIP VOLUNTEER APPRECIATION
SAVE THE DATE! Our annual SISIP Volunteer Appreciation event will be held on Friday October 24th!  Volunteers who have registered with the new PEI Military Family Resource Centre since it stood up on April 1st will be receiving an invitation to attend a dinner and comedy show at the Charlottetown Legion. Dinner will be at 6:00pm and the Forces Comedy Tour will begin at 8:00pm. Details will follow on your personal invitation. Hope to see you there!
 
New Volunteers Welcome!
Do you have a special skill or talent you would like to share?
Do you like working with others?
Do you want to give back to the military community?
The PEI MFRC is the place for you!
We are looking for volunteer team members to assist with various upcoming projects and activities. For more information, please contact Lynn at Lynn.Milligan@forces.gc.ca or call 902.892.8999.
 
COMMUNITY NEEDS ASSESSMENT
Thank you to everyone who participated in our Community Needs Assessment.  The results are in.  If you are interested in viewing the final report, please click
here.  If you are unable to open the link, please contact the MFRC to request a copy by email.

SATELLITE OFFICE OPENING IN SUMMERSIDE
The PEI MFRC will be setting up a satellite office at the Summerside Armouries in October. The Armouries is located at Slemon Park. Program Coordinator Lynn Milligan will be at this office on Thursdays, starting on October 9th. October office hours are as follows:
October 9th - 12:00noon to 4:00pm and 6:00pm to 9:00pm.
October16th - 6:00pm to 9:00pm. 
October 23rd - 12:00noon to 4:00pm and 6:00pm to 9:00pmA special thanks to Lieutenant AJ Dunford and the PEIR personnel for allowing the PEI MFRC this opportunity.
 
NEW COMMUNITY PARTNERSHIP
WELCOME WAGON
Are you and your family new to the area? The Welcome Wagon has been around since 1930 and they offer a variety of programs. If interested in having the Welcome Wagon visit you, simply contact the area coordinator, Stacey Hamdan, at Shamdan@welcomewagon.ca.
 
ROSETTA STONE
The PEI MFRC is now able to offer on-line second language training for military family members. There are very few spaces left and registration is on a first-come, first-serve basis. Registration is free of charge, but there is a $10.00 fee for the headset required for the course. Application forms and policies are available upon request. For more information, please call 902-892-8999 or contact Lynn at Lynn.Milligan@forces.gc.ca.
 
COFFEE HOUR
Coffee hour will be held on Tuesday October 14th from 10:00am to 11:00am. This month’s coffee break will be held at HMCS Queen Charlotte, 10 Water Street. Everyone is welcome…hope to you there!
 
CRAFT AND CHAT – NEW PROGRAM
Do you like to knit, crochet, cross stitch, sketch and do other types of crafts? Join us on Thursday October 16th from 6:30pm to 8:00pm! Bring whatever you are working on and join other creative people while you work on your project, talk and enjoy light refreshments.
Location: PEI MFRC, 88 Watts Ave.
Program is FREE but pre-registration is required…to register please call 902.892.8999. Deadline to register: Tuesday, October 14th (please note: minimum registration is required).

FAMILY EVENTS
FAMILY COSMIC BOWLING
Join us for cosmic bowling on Saturday, October 18th from 2:00 to 3:00pm. This event will take place in Summerside at the Credit Union Place. This event is open to military members and their families and veterans and their families. Cost will be $4.00 per person – this includes shoe rental. Costumes welcome! Halloween treat bags will be given to the children.
Pre-registration is required…please call 902.892.8999.
Payment can be made at:
the PEI MFRC at 88 Watts Ave. in Charlottetown – Monday through Friday 8:00am to 4:00pm
or at the Summerside Armouries from 6:00 to 9:00pm on Thursday October 16th.
Registration deadline in Thursday October 16th…minimum registration is required.
 
FAMILY GLOWBOWLING

Join us for glow bowling on Saturday, October 18th from 1:30pm to 2:45pm. The event will take place in Charlottetown at Murphy’s Community Centre. This event is open to military members and their families and veterans and their families. Cost will be $5.00 per person – this includes shoe rental. Costumes welcome! Halloween treat bags will be given to the children. Pre-registration is required…please call 902.892.8999.
Payment can be made at:
the PEI MFRC at 88 Watts Ave. in Charlottetown – Monday through Friday 8:00am to 4:00pm.
Registration deadline in Thursday October 16th…minimum registration is required.
 
NEW COMMUNITY PARTNERSHIP
The PEI MFRC has entered into a community partnership with the PEI Public Library Service. The MFRC will be promoting and advertising public library programs that may be of interest to military or veteran families. There are 25 public libraries across the Island and they offer a wide range of activities, clubs and services for all ages. Here is a list of some of the programs being offered in October…be sure to check out their website for many more activities in your area… http://www.library.pe.ca
 
PROGRAM DATE & TIME LOCATION CONTACT INFO TYPE OF PROGRAM
Watercolour Art Fridays at 3:30pm Stratford Public Library 902.569.7441 Adult
Stitching Club Thursdays at 7:00pm, starting Oct. 16 Tyne Valley Public Library 902.831-3338 Adult
Computer/Internet Basics Wednesdays at 7:00pm, starting Oct 15 Alberton Public Library 902.853-3049 Adult
Fall Garden Prep Oct 2 at 2:00pm O’Leary Public Library 902.859.8788 Adult
The Role of Executor and Power of Attorney Oct 22 at 7:00pm Murray River Leona Giddings Memorial Library 902.962.2667 Adult
Energy Efficiency in the Home Oct 23 at 7:00pm Confederation
Centre Public Library
902.368.4642 Adult
Science de la cuisine 25 octobre a 10h30 Bibliotheque publique J.Henri-Blanchard 902.854.2491 Teen
Lap Sit Wednesdays at 9 :30am Summerside Rotary Library 902.436.7323 0 – 36 months
Story Time Tuesdays at 3 :30 Kinkora Public Library 902.887.2172 3 to 5 years
Spooky Fun Night Oct. 24 at 6 :00pm Tignish Public Library 902.882.7363 3 to 5 years
Giving Thanks Oct. 7 at 4 :30 Georgetown Genevieve Solomon Memorial Library 902.652.2832 6 to 12 years
Squiggle Brush: Stories & Art Tuesdays at 10:00am Stratford Public Library 902.569.7441 6 to 12 years
Halloween Party Oct 28 at 6:00pm Borden-Carlton Public Library 902.437.6492 All ages
Puppet Show Last Saturday of month at 11:35am Montague Rotary Library 902.838.2928 All ages
Mask Making Oct 25 at 11:00am Hunter River Memorial Library 902.964.2800 All ages

For more information on any of these programs or to register, please contact the public library noted.
 
PARENTING SUPPORT
AUTISM AWARENESS…there will be an autism awareness session offered at the Kensington Heritage Library. This session will take place on Thursday, October 2nd at 6:30. For more information or to register, please call 902.836.3721.
 
ADHD AWARENESS & STRATEGIES…there will be an ADHS awareness and strategies session held at the Kensington Heritage Library. This session will take place on Thursday, October 23rd at 6:30. For more information or to register, please call 902.836.3721.
 
PUBLICATIONS
Complimentary copies of Canadian Military Family magazine, the fall Issue, will be arriving at the MFRC the first week in October…. we also have complimentary subscription cards in you are interested in having this magazine mailed directly to your home …be sure to stop by to pick your free copy and / or subscription cards. Pick up locations:
The PEI MFRC, 88 Watts Ave., Charlottetown (Mon – Fri; 8:00am to 4:00pm)
HMCS Queen Charlotte, 10 Water St., Charlottetown (Mon – Fri; 8:00am to 4:00pm)
Summerside Armouries, Slemon Park (Thursday Oct. 16; 6:00pm to 9:00pm


HOW WE CREATE STRESS FOR OURSELVES
A man was telling me about his problems at work. Together, we devised a plan of action: he would speak with his boss to discuss his grievances and request changes to improve the situation.
It worked. His boss was receptive and supportive, and made changes to address his concerns. Problem solved, right? Well, not exactly.
He continued to focus on one issue that wasn't totally resolved. He also ruminated over what had happened in the past and worried about whether the improvements would last.
I gently reflected back to him that there was so much good news and so many positive signals to be pleased about. But he continued to struggle and suffer. I then suggested that he was actually making things harder for himself, that the source of his stress was no longer the workplace situation, but the voice in his head that was talking to him.
If you ask folks where their stress comes from, most will identify external sources such as deadlines, noisy neighbours, sitting in traffic and other stressors which I wrote about last week. However, it may surprise you that the most common source of stress is actually inside ourselves.
The majority of the stress that most of us have is self-generated. That is, we create most of our own distress. When I share this thought with patients, I usually get one of two reactions. Most of them nod in agreement and say, "Yeah, I know. I'm my own worst enemy." But some take this observation as a blaming statement. It's almost as if they're saying, "Oh, I see, not only am I feeling crummy, but now you're telling me it's all my fault. Thanks for the uplift!" I assure them that my comment is meant in a positive and constructive way. The good news is that if we create much of our own distress, then we can do something about it. We don't control other people's behaviour, the weather or the economy. But we do have control over ourselves. So addressing our internal stressors is a great starting point for reducing our overall stress.
We all have a little voice in our head that talks to us. (You may be relieved to know that you're not the only one hearing voices!) It's the voice that may be saying to you at this moment, "What's he talking about?" or "Oh, yeah, I know what you mean." It's a combination of editorial board, Greek chorus, cheering section and TV commentator. Also called "self-talk" or "internal tapes", the voice comments on everything that goes on. Some of its messages are positive: "This shirt looks really good on me" or "What a beautiful day. I can't wait to get outside." However, a lot of our self-statements have a negative tone. "Well, I blew that sales call!" or "These people are really boring."
We react stressfully to certain situations through our internal conversations: "The service in this restaurant stinks" or "Who does he think he is talking to me that way?" But, we also react stressfully to what might happen - called "anticipatory stress" - such as worries about the stock market or who will win the next election.
We even react to things that don't happen - a party invitation that never arrives or an unreturned phone call. We can also get upset just thinking about something that happened long ago, triggering a stress reaction similar to the one that occurred at the time. Sometimes we feel stressed not because what happens is so bad, but because it was less than we expected. For example, a patient felt lousy after giving a speech. She told me, "My presentation went fine, but not nearly as well as I'd hoped. I counted on hitting a home run and only hit a double." These are all examples of the little voice in our heads stirring up trouble and unease.
Add these internal conversations to things like drinking too much caffeine, overloading our schedules and getting into too much debt and you begin to understand how much of our stress is self-created.
If this list seems daunting to you, don't be discouraged. First of all, realize that you're not alone. Secondly, recognize that awareness is the first important step to dealing with these problems.
And thirdly, appreciate that, if we're the ones creating the stress, then we're in the best position to do something about it. We have more control than we think.
All material copyrighted, David B. Posen M.D.


MAKING CHANGE WORK FOR YOU
…another posting?...another deployment?...another 3 months of training?...another promotion?
 
“The only constant in life is change” and who knows that better than families who live the military lifestyle. How do military/RCMP, veterans and their families develop resilience and adaptability? The goal of this interactive workshop is to define the difference between change and transition, to create an understanding of transition as a process and to discuss strategies helpful in moving from endings to new beginnings. Each workshop has 2 sessions, each a week apart. There is no cost to participants. The workshop is open to veterans, RCMP, CAF and their families. Light refreshments will be provided. Please note the registration deadline.
 
Charlottetown & Queens Co. Area Workshop:
Royal Canadian Legion, Branch #1
Monday Nov 17th & 24th
6:45-8:45pm
DEADLINE to register Monday Nov 3rd.
 
Miscouche & Prince Co. Area Workshop:
Royal Canadian Legion #18
Wednesday Nov. 19th & 26th
6:45-8:45pm
DEADLINE to register Wednesday Nov. 5th
 
“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf”- John Kabat-Zin
 
CALL 902-892-8999 TO REGISTER

 



 
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