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WHAT DID YOU LEARN THIS SUMMER?
Benefits Reinforce Behavior.
Remember the ritual on your first day of school every fall when you had to write a report on, How I Spent My Summer Vacation? You wrote about your trip to the beach, getting a new puppy or your visit to Aunt Martha’s. And, if nothing exciting happened, you made stuff up. Later, as adults, we’d greet people after Labor Day with “How was your summer? What did you do?” It’s a logical question and a good conversation starter, but I think there’s a better question to ask…We often shift gears in the summer, doing different activities and slowing down our daily pace and rhythms. Summers in my youth were spent in a variety of ways: at summer cottages, attending and later working at summer camps, the obligatory trek through Europe as a university student, and working at a hospital in San Francisco. In my adult years, I traveled, played land and water sports, read novels and biographies, visited friends and family and spent lots of time outdoors (In Canada, winter is long and summer is short, so I made the most of it.) It was a time to step out of “the dailyness of life” to kick back, to break out of my usual routine and to try new things. Most of my summers have been very enjoyable but they’ve also taught me a lot. So the question to ask, as you settle into fall, might be “What did you learn this summer?” What did you do differently that worked out well and that you’d like to repeat next year or to continue throughout the year?
I’m hearing great stories and feedback from my patients as they report in after the summer:
• A workaholic professional went onto a summer schedule, taking a day or two off each week – and found she felt better and really enjoyed it. She said “I’m realizing the importance of frequent short breaks” – and plans to continue a variation of this throughout the year.
• A self-employed consultant used to call the office every day when he was on holidays. This year he took a nine-day family vacation and called in only once. The vacation was much more enjoyable and restful – “I forgot about work entirely”. He plans to repeat this from now on when he goes away.
• A woman took sailing lessons and discovered the thrill of mastering a new skill and the pleasure of being out on the water. She’s going to do it again next year.
• Several people left work early on Friday afternoons to play golf or to get a jump on the weekend – and found they enjoyed the new rhythm.
Another lesson might be how to do summer differently in the future. I’ve constructed my summers in various configurations over the years. One summer I took a full month off – and found it was too long at one time. Another summer I took three-day weekends but no extended time off and found it didn’t afford enough of a break. For a few summers we went to a cottage on weekends but I found all the driving to be a hassle. We’ve tried family trips in July and in August and prefer the latter because it’s something to look forward to, late in the summer. Through it all, by trial and error, I’ve evolved a formula that works for me and my family.
What new habits and discoveries have you made? Perhaps you:
• Watched less television and got outside more.
• Spent more time with your kids, fishing or shooting hoops on the driveway.
• Got out your old guitar and realized how much you enjoy strumming.
• Picked up an old craft or started a new activity like gardening or photography.
• Did some volunteer work and enjoyed making a contribution and meeting new people.
• Dusted off your bike and rediscovered the pleasure of cycling.
• Hung around the dinner table after supper to just relax and talk instead of jumping up and getting busy again.
In each case, you may have found an activity or change in routine that worked well and that you can do again and incorporate into your life. In other words, the benefits can reinforce the behavior. What’s one thing you did this summer that you want to continue? (e.g. going for a walk at lunch time).
What’s one thing you stopped doing and want to drop permanently from your routine? (e.g. checking e-mail at bedtime or on weekends) A lot of people make New Year’s resolutions on January 1st. I think of Labor Day as another chance to make a fresh start. Life gets back to normal, kids go back to school, work ramps up again and the usual pace of life returns. It’s a logical transition time to establish new habits that enhance your life. One of the challenges and opportunities of coming back from vacation is not to let the good feelings and rhythms melt upon your return. Even if you can maintain only one change or new habit, it will serve you well.
It’s never too late to turn over a new leaf – and September is a great time to do that, while the perspectives from summer are still fresh in your mind. Capture one or two of the lessons you learned this summer and reshape your life this fall.
All material copyrighted, David B. Posen M.D.
Hello PEI MFRC volunteers! Our volunteer meeting will be held on Wednesday September 3rd at 6:30pm. Location: PEI MFRC, 88 Watts Ave. Please send me a quick email if you are able to attend…Lynn.Milligan@forces.gc.ca.
New Volunteers Welcome!
Do you have a special skill or talent you would like to share?
Do you like working with others?
Do you want to give back to the military community?
The PEI MFRC is the place for you!
We are looking for volunteer team members to assist with various upcoming projects and activities. For more information, please contact Lynn at Lynn.Milligan@forces.gc.ca or call 902.892.8999.
CHANGE OF OFFICE SPACE
Please be aware that there is a change in office space for Program Coordinators, Lynn Milligan and Bernie Mullin-Splude. As of September 2nd, 2014, Lynn will be located at the PEI MFRC at 88 Watts Ave., and while Bernie will still be at HMCS Queen Charlotte, she will now be located on the main level in Room 123.
The PEI MFRC is now able to offer on-line second language training for military family members. There are a few spaces left and registration is on a first-come, first-serve basis. Registration is free of charge, but there is a $10.00 fee for the headset required for the course. Application forms and policies are available upon request. For more information, please call 902-892-8999 or contact Lynn at Lynn.Milligan@forces.gc.ca.
CRAFT AND CHAT – NEW PROGRAM
Do you like to knit, crochet, cross stitch, sketch and do other types of crafts? Join us on Thursday September 18th from 6:30pm to 8:00pm! Bring whatever you are working on and join other creative people while you work on your project, talk and enjoy light refreshments.
Location: PEI MFRC, 88 Watts Ave.
Program is FREE but pre-registration is required…to register please call 902.892.8999. Deadline to register: Monday, September 15th (please note: minimum registration is required).
Coffee hour will be held on Tuesday September 9th from 10:00am to 11:00am. This month’s coffee break will be held at the PEI MFRC at 88 Watts Ave. Looking forward to seeing you there!
September is the beginning of many new beginnings.
How to prepare your child for daycare
The types of daycare facilities can vary greatly. Some are for a single child or small groups of children. Other daycare facilities have enough daycare professionals to allow for more than 30 children. Helping your child adjust to attending daycare can be a challenge for you as the parent and for the child as well. It is important to prepare you and your child for this change.
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- Talk with your child and explain to her what she can expect at daycare. With an infant, having a conversation with your child is not a possibility, however, one suggestion would be allowing the infant see her parents talking with the daycare provider in a friendly way so she feels secure that her parents like the provider. For a two-year-old, emphasize the chance to play with friends if other kids attend the daycare. If it is an in-home daycare just for your child, emphasize the chance to play with new toys and games the provider has. As a child reaches the age of four, this is a chance to point out that daycare for her is preparation for kindergarten. Emphasize how she is becoming a big girl by doing this and how proud you are that she is going to daycare.
- Prepare the child for one parent not being home by running a practice daycare session at your home. To do this have the parent who is not the primary caregiver watch the child for between six and eight hours during the day. This will give your child a good test for being with someone who is different from the ordinary caregiver for most of the day.
- Ask a relative to help with preparing the child for daycare. Arrange for one of your relatives to act as the daycare provider for a day. Drop the child off, but remain in the local area and shop or enjoy a dinner while the child is being watched by the relative. This will help the child adjust to having neither parent with him during the day.
- Ask for a tour of the daycare facility, and bring your child with you. This will allow her to meet the daycare provider or providers and meet some of the other children at the daycare.
- Present your child with a new toy to bring to daycare on his first day of daycare, and let him bring it to daycare with him. This will help put the child in a good mood before dropping him off for the day.
- Remain at the daycare facility for a few minutes after dropping your child off. Participate with the group so your child can see how much you like the daycare facility, teachers and activities.
- Consider only using daycare for half-days for the first week. This will allow your child to get adjusted to daycare on a part-time basis without overwhelming her.
10 WAYS TO PREPARE YOUR CHILD FOR SCHOOL
Banish first-day jitters for your child and for yourself
Starting school can be a difficult time for children. Every child is hesitant to go somewhere new and see people she's never met before. Here are some helpful ways to prepare your child for her first day of school:
Sources: American Academy of Pediatrics; Caring for Your School-Age Child: Ages 5-12, by Edward L. Schor (Bantam, 1999)
- Let your child know what his schedule will be like. Tell him what time school begins and ends each day.
- Ask your child about her feelings -- both the excitement and the concerns -- about starting school.
- Visit the school with your child to see his new classroom and meet his new teacher before school officially starts.
- Point out the positive aspects of starting school. It will be fun and she can make new friends.
- Let your child know that all kids are nervous about the first day of school.
- Leave a note in your child's lunchbox that will remind him you're thinking of him while he's at school.
- Reassure your child that if any problems arise at school, you will be there to help resolve them.
- Try to have your child meet a classmate before the first day of school so she will already have a friend when school starts.
- Arrange for your child to walk to school or ride together on the bus with another kid in the neighborhood.
- Find out about after-school activities that your child can join. Will there be a back-to-school party? Can she join a sports team?
The information on this Web site is designed for educational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for informed medical advice or care. You should not use this information to diagnose or treat any health problems or illnesses without consulting your pediatrician or family doctor. Please consult a doctor with any questions or concerns you might have regarding your or your child's condition.
"PARENTING CANADA" & "CANADIAN MILITARY FAMILY" MAGAZINES
The PEI MFRC has complimentary copies of “Parents Canada" and "Canadian Military Family" magazines! To pick up your free copy of both publications, simply stop by one of our offices at 88 Watts Ave. or at HMCS Queen Charlotte, Room 123. These magazines have a wide variety of topics and interesting articles. Your copy is waiting for you!
FALL ACTIVITIES FOR FAMILIES
As the leaves fall from the trees, families are trying to find fun things to do during the season of fall. Some families may feel more restricted about finding fun activities when following a strict budget. This doesn’t have to be the case. There are many fun fall activities that families can do together at little to no cost.
OUTDOOR FALL ACTIVITIES
Fall is a wonderful season to take the whole family outdoors and have some fun. Listed below are some ideas for families on different fall activities that can be done outside:
INDOOR FALL ACTIVITIES
- Go play at a local or state park (many have marked trails and playgrounds).
- Participate in different free and low priced activities provided by local parks (many may be in or near where a family lives).
- Go on walks around the neighborhood.
- Visit apple orchards and pumpkin farms (call in advance to see if there is an admission fee, how much is charged for apples, pumpkins, etc. Find out if other activities such as corn mazes and wagons are provided and at what cost).
- Attend a local farmers market (many will stay open until the end of October and then have indoor farmers market near the holidays).
- Rake a pile of leaves and have children jump into the pile or place the leaves into pumpkin bags for decoration.
- Collect leaves for leaf rubbings, leaf wreaths, etc.
- Make bird feeders out of pine cones, peanut butter, and bird seed (take peanut butter and place onto pine cones, place the pine cone into a tray of bird seed and roll it around, then use a string or ribbon to hang up the bird feeder outdoors).
- Attend a high school football game.
- Have a campfire with smores (purchases necessary items from the dollar store or on sale).
Sometimes as the fall season progresses, the temperature drops or it rains (sometimes it will even snow). Parents and kids can try to find some fun inexpensive indoor activities. Listed below are some inexpensive indoor activities for families:
NEW TO THE CHARLOTTETOWN AREA?
- Attend library programs (i.e. story time, movie night at the library, special speakers, etc.).
- Make leaf rubbings or leaf wreaths from what was collected during walks.
- Make fall candle holders by taking fall colored (orange, yellow, brown, green) tissue paper, baby food jars (smaller jars, usually step 1 in baby food), glue that is watered down, and paint the tissue paper onto the baby food jars with glue mixture.
- Go to a mall playground area.
- Have a movie night with microwave popcorn and a rented movie (i.e. from the library or dollar rental box).
- Set up a small tent in the living or family room and have children “camp out” indoors.
- Go to a movie matinee.
- Find out which local museums have free and reduced admissions and visit them.
- Volunteer at a food pantry, church, local organization, etc.
- Can items from the garden.
- Bake treats and share with family and friends.
- Make fall decorations and place them in the front window.Families have many options what can be done during the season of fall, both outdoors and indoors. Having fun during the fall season does not have to cost a lot either. The toughest decision will be deciding what to do first – go on a walk or visit a local park?
Are you new to the Charlottetown area? Wondering about hospitals, public transit, recreation, parks, local schools, paying bills, fire and police services? Be sure to check out the City of Charlottetown website at: http://city.charlottetown.pe.ca/newcomersguide.php
PUBLIC RELATIONS & SOCIAL MEDIA COORDINATOR
The Prince Edward Island Military Family Resource Centre, Charlottetown, PEI is currently seeking to contract a Public Relations & Social Media Coordinator on a temporary, part-time basis.
The Public Relations & Social Media Coordinator requires a broad range of skills and experience in support of key marketing objectives and goals. The Public Relations & Social Media Coordinator is responsible for media relations, social media and shares responsibility for the creation of publications and presentations. The position reports to the Executive Director.
The candidate must have a minimum of three years of related experience and a B.A. or equivalent degree in communications, marketing or English. The candidate must be a good communicator with excellent verbal and writing skills and have the ability to manage multiple tasks on time and within budget. Strong computer skills, using Microsoft Office and other software programs, are required.
Please submit letter of interest, compensation requirements and résumé by September 5th to: Donna Earl, Executive Director, PEI MFRC, 88 Watts Avenue, Charlottetown, PE, C1E 2C1 or email: email@example.com
We thank all those who apply, but only those selected for an interview will be contacted.
The City of Charlottetown will pay tribute to Veterans and commemorate the 100th anniversary of the beginning of the First World War and the 75th anniversary of the beginning of the Second World War.
This event takes place on Sunday,October 26 at 1:30 in the Homburg Theatre of the Confederation Centre of the Arts. The program will consist of an Act of Remembrance, music, dancing, singing, a reenactment and the launch of the Royal Canadian Legion Poppy Campaign. Musical guests include the Belfast Pipes and Drums, the PEI Regimental Band, the Canada Remembers Chorus and Phase II.
A reception will be held in Memorial Hall following the program where guests will enjoy tea and war cake and visit numerous displays.
Admission is free of charge, but tickets are required. They are available at the Box Office of the Confederation Centre of the Arts.
DO YOU NEED HELP?
If you or someone you know is in crisis and needs help, resources are available. In case of an emergency, please call 911 for immediate help. For a list of some of the available mental health programs and services around Canada, please refer to the following information:
Mental Health resources for Canadian Armed Forces members and families
Veterans Affairs Crisis Line
- Are you in distress? Call the Member Assistance Program right now at 1-800-268-7708
- Are you worried about your family member? Call the Family Information Line right now at 1-800-866-4546
Military Family Resources
- Call Assistance Service Operators at: 1-800-268-7708 or TDD 1-800-567-5803
Natasha Wood Foundation
- Family information line: 1-800-866-4546
Royal Canadian Legion
- It's mission is to improve the health of allied military families by helping them overcome many of the personal and societal challenges associated with mental illness.
The Canadian Veterans Advocacy
- Canada’s largest veteran and community support organization
- Call toll free: 1-888-556-6222
Non-military Veterans Support Line
- Not-for-profit corporation focused on improving the quality of life for Canadian Veterans
- Call: 1-905-357-3306
- Independent and anonymous support line, staffed by veterans with PTSD: 1-855-373-8387
- Canada’s primary source of information on government and community based health and social services
Mental Health First Aid
- The MHFA Canada program aims to improve mental health literacy, and provide the skills and knowledge to help people better manage potential or developing mental health problems in themselves, a family member, a friend or a colleague
- Call toll free: 1-866-989-3985
Drugs and Alcohol Helpline
- Military Minds Inc. – The largest organization in the world raising awareness of the stigma around PTSD
Canadian Mental Health Association
SISIP Financial Services
- Call toll free: 1-800-565-8603
- The purpose of the Financial Counselling program is to provide, at no cost, confidential and timely assistance to Canadian Armed Forces (CAF) members and their spouses who are experiencing financial distress
- Call toll free: 1-800-267-6681
Wounded Warriors Canada
- A federally registered non-profit organization that works within the community to identify homeless veterans and quickly re-establish the bond of trust that exists between soldiers
Operational Stress Injury Social Support
- Programs for physically/mentally injured soldiers and veterans
- Call toll free: 1-888-706-4808
- Talk to Canadian Forces members who know first-hand the lived experience of operational stress injuries (OSIs) and the possible impacts
- Call toll free: 1-800-883-6094
Service Animals and Therapy
Most of this list is courtesy of Send Up the Count – http://www.facebook.com/groups/sendupthecount--a social media campaign is encouraging soldiers to come together and act as a support system for fellow comrades who “have slipped or are slipping through the cracks.”
- Casualty Support provides support services for serving and retired members of the Canadian Armed Forces who are ill, injured, deceased, their families, and next of kin
- Call toll free: 1-800-883-6094