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Dear luscious ones,

How is your first week into a new decade? On New Years Eve, I unexpectedly had the opportunity to practice overcoming sunk cost fallacy, which is when you double down on a wrong move because of all the time, money, resources, etc that you've already invested into that wrong move. Common examples: a person keeps investing in a stock that is clearly tanking, but she doesn't want to sell because then the 10 / 20 / 30 years in which she held the stock feels like a waste; a long-term married couple has fallen out of love years ago and they both know it, but neither of them wants to be the one to initiate the divorce, and so on.

I started off at a party that wasn't energetically the kind of space I desired to be in to ring in the new decade (it involved watching Ryan Seacrest and the Times Square pre-ball drop celebration on offense if that's your thing, but it's not my thing). It wasn't a bad party per se, it simply wasn't what my intuition was calling for. So I took a chance on another party, and it turned out to be waaaay less vibrationally aligned, comically so. Imagine an introverted mystic showing up at a party where expletive-drenched rap songs are blasting from the stereo. For a brief moment I got caught up in the sunk costs: it was already 11:30pm at that point, the distance I drove, the gas I spent to get to that party. But I broke the spell by asking myself this question: what choice would be the most in alignment with my soul? I drove home and rung in the new year on my yoga mat, with a candle and meditation. 

The fact that I was able to connect with my deepest desire of that moment and quickly pivot toward its fulfillment bodes well for me in this decade. There was a time when I would have stayed at that party based on the belief that I must make the best of a misaligned / mediocre situation, or that it's rude to stay at a party for less than an hour, or any other self-limiting belief that encourages behavior based on the sunk cost fallacy. 

Which brings me to you. What is your deepest desire right now around your self-expression? What would a pivot toward its fulfillment look like for you? What sunk cost fallacies would you need to release yourself from in order to step into greater alignment with your soul?

When it comes to vocal expression specifically, the fallacy I hear most often is: an investment in one's identity as not-a-singer.

"My sister is the singer in the family."
"My third grade teacher told me to lip sync because my voice was so terrible."
"I don't see the point in singing as a practice if I'm not doing it professionally."

Consider my favorite quote from Japanese Zen Buddhist monk Shunryu Suzuki: there are no enlightened people, only enlightened activity. The creative impulse exists in all of us. Regardless of whether or not we "identify" as singers, or dancers, painters, sculptors, chefs, we have permission to sing, dance, paint, sculpt, cook, and all other enlightening activities that edify our souls simply in the process of doing them. 

1. The Open Sing is taking January off, but save the date for February 9 and all other second Sundays of the month!

2. Thank you to everyone who has signed up for vocal coaching!

Would you like to feel more grounded and confident in the powerful capacities of your voice? Invest in a session with me. Clients leave my sessions feeling revitalized, inspired, more in touch with themselves, and a deeper understanding of what their voices can do. Contact me at to book a coaching session, or a free 15 minute exploratory phone consultation.

3. Thanks to those who have purchased a Lush Tongue merch item! You can support my platform by purchasing t-shirts, hoodies, mugs, or tote bags. Here is the link:

4. Save the date: on January 19 I will be leading a song service at the New York Society for Ethical Culture's Sunday Platform, in honor of civil rights activist, professor and entertainer Angeline Butler's presentation "Reflections on a Non-Violent Movement." More details to come.

Who is Onome?
Onome is a vocalist and interdisciplinary sound artist of Urhobo heritage in the Niger Delta. She incorporates improvisation into her practice as a tool to expand consciousness, creativity, and personal development. Through her audience-interactive performances, workshops and sound installations, Onome embodies joy, enchantment, and infinite possibility. She is an artist-in-residence at Carnegie Hall as a core member of the vocal improvisation lab and ensemble, Moving Star. 

She has performed sound poetry at hundreds of venues nationally, recorded soundscapes for podcasts, and created vocal film scores. She received her MFA in Performance Studies at Pratt Institute. She is the artistic director for Lush Tongue, a project that encompasses improvisation based on a repertoire of songs by women composers, sound healing, singing immersions, workshops, vocal coaching, retreats, and concerts. She facilitates community vocal immersions at concert halls, conferences, galleries, museums, schools, cultural centers, shelters, prisons, parks, churches, wherever voices gather.
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Love and gratitude,
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